Finding our Niche
This cartoon from Hugh at Gapingvoid reminds me of the often futile struggle many of us engage in to find our one true niche in life.
Or getting stuck in a job we really hate....
But to me, this quote from Harold Whitman (via Workhappy) reflects a far more doable and inspiring approach.......
Don't ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who are alive."
What happens though, if like me (50 years old and still doesn't know what he wants to be when he grows up! ;-) ), you never did find that magical niche? Are you seriously willing to postpone your own happiness until the time when/if you find the work 'you were meant to do'? Are you really willing to make fulfillment in your life, dependant on something that may or may not happen?
Sounds a risky life strategy to me, but is there an alternative?
Sure there is - stop looking.... and try to enjoy what's is, here and now.
But seriously, is that a viable option? Isn't this just a defeatist attitude? And surely if we stopped seeking we could so easily to fall into disillusionment and regret having 'missed our boat'?
Well certainly that's one way of looking at it, and this is a mind game the ego would love to have us play. But there's another possibility that's ours to choose if we wish.
There's a part us that longs to come out and play to join the party that's going on right now. When we stop looking for satisfaction in some other place, time or circumstance we create a space in which this part of us, our own Beingness, can shine through. This real Self, our essence if you like, doesn't care what game we're playing or who else is at the party. It just enjoys playing for it's own sake. When we are no longer willing to wait for the right circumstances before we shine, our Beingness can shine into everything we do. And it's self-sustaining too - what we give can only grow stronger.
It's not about giving up on our dreams, it's about getting real about what we really want. It's about giving ourselves the time and space to get in touch with who we really are, not the imaginary 'ego' part but the real part ... the one that sees our future far brighter than we could ever imagine.
How how would it feel?
Try to remember when there was a time,--perhaps a minute, maybe even less--when nothing came to interrupt your peace; when you were certain you were loved and safe. Then try to picture what it would be like to have that moment be extended to the end of time and to eternity. Then let the sense of quiet that you felt be multiplied a hundred times, and then be multiplied another hundred more.
And now you have a hint, not more than just the faintest intimation of the state your mind will rest in when the truth has come." A Course in Miracles
This is the great paradox:- When we call off the search and give ourselves the quiet time to allow our own essence to nourish us and heal our fears and doubts, our world quite literally changes to reflect this internal shift. What we really want finds us. The Presence that shines when we create the quiet time to give it welcome acts as a magnet for all good things - including, of course, the work we were meant to do.
So here's the rub - there's no space for the love within us to transform our lives when we are busy seeking ...... but it's only seeking that hides our awareness of the true nature of the Seeker, that shines in each moment we are present.